chad r asked:
My husband has a child from a previous relationship. His son’s mother and him were never married. The mother of the child has a HORRIBLE crystal meth addiction. The mother got a charge for burglary but then dropped dirty to crystal meth 3 times at a probation meeting a was sentenced to prision. The child lived with us while she was in prision. My husband was in the middle of getting custody and had already filed for child support when she got out of prision and took him out of our babysitters house while we were at work? She has now filed for child support against him and he is paying her 450 a month child support. She takes that money and buys meth and then 2 days after she gets her child support she calls asking him to buy diapers. The child has a burn on his leg as a result of a meth pipe. She will not let my my husband see him at all unless she is present. Everytime we see his son he has not had a bath in days. We have called the abuse hotline twice. How do we get custody of him?
I live in Kansas City MIssouri, The day the women got out of prision she called the police and said that her child was in that home and wasn’t supposed to be. The police took his son out of that home and gave him to her. When my husband got off work he called the police and they told him that they don’t interfere with child custody cases. So we called internal affairs with the police department and got the 2 police officers suspended from the force. This women walked out on my husband when she was 2 months pregnant and said she was getting an abortion then called my husband when their son was 2 months old to inform him he had a son. She smoked crystal meth until she was 8 months pregnant and was even in rehab for it while she was pregnant. as soon as she had their son she was right back at it. She is so out there on meth that she thinks her teeth are meth and smokes them. My husband and I have never done drugs. We live in a safe and VERY clean home. She lives at home with her mom.
She is 26 with 4 kids and the oldest being 12. She stays at her mom’s house with all four of her kids. Her house is so dirty and disgusting we have turned it in because their is black mold in the house. The whole reason that she is angry and not letting my husband see their son on his own is because when she was in prison we took him to live with us and she expected us to let him stay there with her mom. And only come see him every weekend. That’s not going to happen. Any parent that cares about their kid wouldn’t let them live in that kind of enviroment. Like I said before We live in a very clean stable home. My husband has never had a criminal record. He has only had one speeding ticket. I need help with this situation it is so confusing. I could keep going on with all the things this mother does but it would take days
And to add one thing she does not and WILL not work. She collects welfare which makes me really upset because my husband and I have to work to support our children but she don’t. My husband and I have a son together and I have a litlle girl from a previous relationship. She uses my tax dollors and the child support to buy drugs and then turns right around and says he needs something. She always has her hair and nails done and dresses fairly nice but their son and all her other kids haven’t had a bath. She has name brand clothes while her kids wear shoes from walmart. As a parent don’t you put your children first?
My husband has a child from a previous relationship. His son’s mother and him were never married. The mother of the child has a HORRIBLE crystal meth addiction. The mother got a charge for burglary but then dropped dirty to crystal meth 3 times at a probation meeting a was sentenced to prision. The child lived with us while she was in prision. My husband was in the middle of getting custody and had already filed for child support when she got out of prision and took him out of our babysitters house while we were at work? She has now filed for child support against him and he is paying her 450 a month child support. She takes that money and buys meth and then 2 days after she gets her child support she calls asking him to buy diapers. The child has a burn on his leg as a result of a meth pipe. She will not let my my husband see him at all unless she is present. Everytime we see his son he has not had a bath in days. We have called the abuse hotline twice. How do we get custody of him?
I live in Kansas City MIssouri, The day the women got out of prision she called the police and said that her child was in that home and wasn’t supposed to be. The police took his son out of that home and gave him to her. When my husband got off work he called the police and they told him that they don’t interfere with child custody cases. So we called internal affairs with the police department and got the 2 police officers suspended from the force. This women walked out on my husband when she was 2 months pregnant and said she was getting an abortion then called my husband when their son was 2 months old to inform him he had a son. She smoked crystal meth until she was 8 months pregnant and was even in rehab for it while she was pregnant. as soon as she had their son she was right back at it. She is so out there on meth that she thinks her teeth are meth and smokes them. My husband and I have never done drugs. We live in a safe and VERY clean home. She lives at home with her mom.
She is 26 with 4 kids and the oldest being 12. She stays at her mom’s house with all four of her kids. Her house is so dirty and disgusting we have turned it in because their is black mold in the house. The whole reason that she is angry and not letting my husband see their son on his own is because when she was in prison we took him to live with us and she expected us to let him stay there with her mom. And only come see him every weekend. That’s not going to happen. Any parent that cares about their kid wouldn’t let them live in that kind of enviroment. Like I said before We live in a very clean stable home. My husband has never had a criminal record. He has only had one speeding ticket. I need help with this situation it is so confusing. I could keep going on with all the things this mother does but it would take days
And to add one thing she does not and WILL not work. She collects welfare which makes me really upset because my husband and I have to work to support our children but she don’t. My husband and I have a son together and I have a litlle girl from a previous relationship. She uses my tax dollors and the child support to buy drugs and then turns right around and says he needs something. She always has her hair and nails done and dresses fairly nice but their son and all her other kids haven’t had a bath. She has name brand clothes while her kids wear shoes from walmart. As a parent don’t you put your children first?
Know when she has the drugs and call the police about the drugs and child in the house. Be there so that you can get the child when she is being arrested. Make sure the baby sitter knows to call you and the police if she gets out so that you she does not get the child again. go talk to the magistrate about a public defender for help.
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Comment by ronnny — July 21, 2009 @ 6:09 pm
Get a lawyer.
Comment by heart o' gold — July 25, 2009 @ 3:31 am
Try DCF if they take the child you can get from them since they have to notifier the dad go see them and see what help they could provide for you hope you get the baby
Comment by COUNTRY--GIRL — July 26, 2009 @ 7:21 am
what state do you live in? go to the local court house and at the circuit clercks office you can get your own papers to fill out and file the charge is small you can also file the papers to get all her crimal activity and use it agaist her. i know i did this for my husband with his daughter. also take pictures of the abuse judges what to see the proof enough proof the judge can order drug test to see and to decide if the child is in danger child services are very so to react and alot of time to stupid to help how old is this child?
Comment by Shirley F — July 29, 2009 @ 12:00 pm
well, if i were you, ask for a court custody hearing and im pretty sure you can get an attourney from the state for cheap or free. but if that fails, represent yourselves. just present the evidence, state your case, and a few tears wouldnt hurt either
and if the other woman doesn’t show up, its likely your husband will get the child. if you get a court hearing and even represent yourselves, there is no way you can lose. and also, dont blame the mother for this. meth is hard. i would definitly say that its the governments fault for not taking the innocent child out of his situation.
and also, what state/city do you live in? i MIGHT be able to help you.
Comment by whiteandnerdy1216 — July 30, 2009 @ 10:51 am
The next time he gives her money call the police and tell them the child is in danger when they bust her then file for custody .
Comment by vernathome — August 2, 2009 @ 7:46 pm
Call the police. Take a picture of the burn on his leg, and how he is dirty because he is not washed. Document all the times that she has asked for money from him and the date. Your husband should be allowed to see his child when she is not there. He obviously would have visitation rights. Take the case back to court. If you tell the court she has problems and about the money and show the burn on his son’s leg, your husband will most likely get custody. Also, the court will take into consideration the fact that that woman has had a criminal record, while your husband’s record is probably clean.
abuse hot lines may not help, but the police and government will.
and people will probably be able to see that she has some ugly ass meth teeth
good luck!
Comment by *Katie* — August 3, 2009 @ 3:58 am
The baby is your husband’s child, and he knows the situation with his ex. Why did he let the mom keep the boy, when she picked him up at the sitter? Why didn’t he call the police? Is there a custody order, and if so, in who’s favor? I find it hard to believe that a woman exhibiting her behavior would be awarded custody by a court. What do the abuse hotline people say?
It’s hard for a dad to get custody, unless the mom is a drug addict – in this case, she is. She’s done time for it; it’s a matter of public record.
Go to her house together. While he holds her off, you get the baby. Leave, taking him with you. Let her scream. She doesn’t have the money for a lawyer, either, and if she calls the cops, tell them about the meth. Immediately take the boy to a doctor; a clinic will do. Have the doctor make a detailed medical record of his condition. Then take him home and cuddle and feed him; if and when the mom calls, hang up. Let the money for a custody fight be her problem; possession is nine tenths of the law, and she’s a proven skank. You’ve got a pretty good case, if she wants to make a thing of it. My point is, if there is not a custody order in her favor, she has no legal right to do what she’s doing.
Waiting to give her money for more drugs and then trying to get the cops over there is worth a try, but how do you know you will time it right, so that the drugs are there when the cops show up? You don’t want to spook her and then have her take off with your husband’s son.
Don’t delay; you are saving a child’s life.
Comment by lighght30 — August 5, 2009 @ 11:46 am
Go to child welfare, or child abuse. The child needs to be taken out of her house immediately.
Why does she have him anyway? She just got out of prison what type of law would give her custody?
If he is paying child support, he should be able to get his son every other week end,
the parents should take turns having him on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and at least a month during the summer.
If they were not married, the above rule may not stick, but if he is paying child support it should.
Call the judges office and tell them the situation and let them know that he does not have the money to fight her in court.
Let them know that you fear for your son because of what it is she is one. Also tell them about the burn on him, how dirty he always is and anything else you can think of.
Comment by Sarah — August 5, 2009 @ 9:33 pm